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We are all so good at externalising blame. We do it habitually and without thinking.
It's her fault, it's the weathers fault, well she did that so what else was I doing to do?
How dare he?
It's just the planets alignments right now.
That damn shop keeper, how dare she.
It's not my fault.
It was my bosses fault.
He is just an arsehole!
What else was I supposed to do after she said THAT to me?
Through our identification with thought as fact, blame has become an instant reaction.
Do you ever stop to see what part you played it a situation?
So often in sessions when we are exploring issues, blame arises and then when we start to explore the blame, justification comes in.
But I had a good reason....she did it to me....he deserved it etc.
That idiot cut me off, of course I got angry!!
He was so rude, what else was I supposed to do?
I can't just let him get away with it...he needed to know he was wrong.
I know from my own self exploration that I always have a part to play in everything.
I choose everything I say and do, either consciously or unconsciously.
I am responsible for how I view the world. I am responsible for how I live and participate in the world. I am responsible for the expectations I have of others to behave, respond, act a certain way. I am responsible for everything that I participate in.
Sounds like a big responsibility.
When we explore blame, again, people come up with the greatest and most horrific examples to question, ready to justify their position in having someone or something to blame. It is as if it is easier to hang on to justification of blame, defence of the ego, than to even approach it with even a cautious investigation!!
We are all responsible for what goes on inside ourselves. We are all responsible for how we interact with the world no matter what the world has presented us with. No matter what outer circumstances we are seemingly presented with it is our inner state that will dictate how we respond.
If we are in resistance we will contract and go into habitual patterns of behaviour.
If we are in acceptance we will have more choice in how we respond. We bring a great power of consciousness to the situation.
How often do you find yourself blaming something for a mood, an event, a choice you made or a reaction you had? How often do you say that you have "no choice" to justify your position or decision.
If we all stepped out of our habitual programmed thinking and into the eternal, expansive consciousness that we are, we would find answers to everything that plagues us as a society and individually.
If you are a truth seeker, question your every motive, thought, reaction. Does it come from a preconceived expectation or program? Is it limiting the possibility of the outcome?
Sometimes the idea of questioning ourselves is overwhelming. I understand that. It is like standing in front of an incredible mess in your closet and not knowing where to start so you close the door and find it easier to walk away.
Take one moment at a time.
Reflect in the evenings before you go to sleep.
Watch the energy patterns, the reactions inside your body as you interact with the world or in moments of quiet.
Watch the thoughts in your mind, see if they alter your perception of what is really happening.
Chose any of these as a starting point and start to own what you are, who you are and what you bring to your experience of life. If it is not what you want, then are you ready to change it?
It can only improve your own experience, what better reason is there than that?
Take a deep breath.
Start where you are now.
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