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I often use the analogy of emotions are like computer software, programs running and what ever program is running is how we view or experience the world in that moment.
I use this to show simply, that if we are the operating system, we should be able to delete, remove, or reprogram faulty or outdated programs if we chose. Its a great way to discuss emotional problems or reactions that arise as something outside of ourselves in order to get a clearer understanding of them.
Here is an example.
A young girl came to see me about a relationship issue. Her boyfriend was not paying enough attention to her, she always had to ring, text arrange things and he seemed to take her for granted. She found she was the one who always had to arrange their time together.
We talked for a while, then as the space changed and she became more present, we started to look at the situation through a number of possibilities. She came to see that she was viewing this through neediness. She felt needy, so when her needs as she saw them we left unmet, she felt like she had no choice but to be the one to keep the relationship going or she would be left lonely.
So we talked about what would happen if she didn't need him. If she felt self assured and could see that she was worth more than what she felt in her neediness. Would she change her actions based on a different system of belief running. She started to explore the option of loneliness as opposed to being lonely. Being alone is a desperate feeling whilst one is in a program of need but being alone can be empowering when viewed by a program of choice.
We worked a few times together on this topic over the next few weeks and she found she was able to recognise when she started to play the neediness program. Her body would change, the sensations, the feelings, she would visibly hunch and shrink, she would feel compressed, (her words), flat and defeated. She would sometimes experience tremors in her body and feel like she wanted to grasp onto the people around her to ease the feeling. She began to notice that by changing her "program" consciously to one of choice, she would stand taller, feel stronger, more vibrant, open and energised and most importantly, not feel the need to call someone or text someone to fill a void she was experiencing.
She stopped constantly calling her boyfriend and started to focus on herself. Over time he would call her more. The next stage was quite interesting, she came to see me 3 months after her realisations and told me that she felt she had really reprogrammed herself on this issue. She realised that her boyfriend was emotionally unavailable and so she had left him. She was feeling powerful. We talked about how if that small change in perception had made such a radical impact on her life then imagine if she started to change other parts and then, maybe, looked at quietening the mind completely.
Changing these patterns still takes place in the realm of the mind and form. Ultimately, You are not your mind and you are formless. Sometimes for many, it is hard to go from one point of perception or belief to a radically different point in one leap.
Start where you are.
Keep your awareness on your Self, change happens in that space. There are times when changing a thought from a perceived negative to a positive will help you in that moment.
At times It is far more achievable to do work within the mind and form than to move away from thought all together.
Although these things dwell within the realm of the mind and form, I work with you however you present. I offer you the truth and we take steps to help you realise, from where ever you are to the ultimate union. I honour your path and I honour where you are.
Remember, enlightenment etc is not about being higher or better than anyone else. Its just that you are more aware of consciousness, you remember more. Its not a race, its a journey of discovery and uncovering and emptying of the space of consciousness that is you.
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