Just for a moment, try to stop thinking.
No judgement, no thought, no conversing, no planning.
Can you still your mind? If you can't control your thoughts, who is in control?
The mind is an amazing tool but thought can never be present, as in in the present moment. If you are thinking, you are in the past, the future but you cannot be present.
The idea of a still mind really scares some people. They think they will become a zombie, or have to be removed from the world, be unable to function, a smiling idiot, a person with no personality etc but that is all fear based. These people do not understand the reality of what it is like to have a quiet mind. It is fear that is guiding their judgement.
Having a quiet mind means you are fully operational! (my sci fi talk there..kids would be proud) It means you are completely present and able to respond fully to the situation you are experiencing, as opposed to unconsciously react.
Here is an example that I experienced with a client last week that I saw in the street.
I said hello, smiling and I asked her how she was.
She became tense and flushed and said she was fine.
It was clear that she was not, in that moment, fine. Trusting the moment that guided me,
I commented that it was nice to see her, we said goodbye and we each continued on our way. I gave it no more thought and moved with the next thing that came into my awareness, happily and peacefully.
She came to see me a few days later and she mentioned our meeting in the street.
She said she that simple question had sent her into a spin. Her mind had taken over and she was swept away in what she described as mental madness or insanity.
She commented that in that she was flooded with mental noise like, If she had have replied to my question that she was good, would I see through it and know that she was lying? If she said she was a bit stressed, it meant that I would think she wasn't applying the tools that she comes to see me about, she wasn't practising what she "should" in her eyes. She would be a failure, she would be exposed, she would not be living up to my expectations of her. She didn't want to admit that she was unhappy. Her mind was going crazy and she experienced anxiety for periods throughout the day.
So we talked about how the mind had taken control in that moment. What I actually asked her was a simple question. Her mind and ego took a simple question and assumed, translated, twisted, brought up her fears etc to taint and complicate the question. Her fears, doubts, vulnerabilities, anxieties and neurosis all came up and she was unable to respond in the way she wanted to. What could have been a pleasant and simple exchange turned in to something that her mind, though her unconscious emotions, used to change her experience into one of stress and anxiety.
The mind does that to us. If we have unexpressed (or suppressed as most of us do) emotions, thoughts, desires, anxieties, fears etc, they tend to rule the show. Our decisions are never based on what we want in that moment, they are based on all the heaviness and loaded nature of our unconscious emotional world.
Does it sound luminous? Well, its easy to change, I say "easy" as it never takes as long to move through the blocks we have as it took to put them there but it does take effort. Effort to merely reverse a habit. We created the current situation of events that we operate by through unconscious habitual doing, thinking etc so why not focus on changing the program?
More about changing the program later.
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I often use the analogy of emotions are like computer software, programs running and what ever program is running is how we view or experience the world in that moment.
I use this to show simply, that if we are the operating system, we should be able to delete, remove, or reprogram faulty or outdated programs if we chose. Its a great way to discuss emotional problems or reactions that arise as something outside of ourselves in order to get a clearer understanding of them.
Here is an example.
A young girl came to see me about a relationship issue. Her boyfriend was not paying enough attention to her, she always had to ring, text arrange things and he seemed to take her for granted. She found she was the one who always had to arrange their time together.
We talked for a while, then as the space changed and she became more present, we started to look at the situation through a number of possibilities. She came to see that she was viewing this through neediness. She felt needy, so when her needs as she saw them we left unmet, she felt like she had no choice but to be the one to keep the relationship going or she would be left lonely.
So we talked about what would happen if she didn't need him. If she felt self assured and could see that she was worth more than what she felt in her neediness. Would she change her actions based on a different system of belief running. She started to explore the option of loneliness as opposed to being lonely. Being alone is a desperate feeling whilst one is in a program of need but being alone can be empowering when viewed by a program of choice.
We worked a few times together on this topic over the next few weeks and she found she was able to recognise when she started to play the neediness program. Her body would change, the sensations, the feelings, she would visibly hunch and shrink, she would feel compressed, (her words), flat and defeated. She would sometimes experience tremors in her body and feel like she wanted to grasp onto the people around her to ease the feeling. She began to notice that by changing her "program" consciously to one of choice, she would stand taller, feel stronger, more vibrant, open and energised and most importantly, not feel the need to call someone or text someone to fill a void she was experiencing.
She stopped constantly calling her boyfriend and started to focus on herself. Over time he would call her more. The next stage was quite interesting, she came to see me 3 months after her realisations and told me that she felt she had really reprogrammed herself on this issue. She realised that her boyfriend was emotionally unavailable and so she had left him. She was feeling powerful. We talked about how if that small change in perception had made such a radical impact on her life then imagine if she started to change other parts and then, maybe, looked at quietening the mind completely.
Changing these patterns still takes place in the realm of the mind and form. Ultimately, You are not your mind and you are formless. Sometimes for many, it is hard to go from one point of perception or belief to a radically different point in one leap.
Start where you are.
Keep your awareness on your Self, change happens in that space. There are times when changing a thought from a perceived negative to a positive will help you in that moment.
At times It is far more achievable to do work within the mind and form than to move away from thought all together.
Although these things dwell within the realm of the mind and form, I work with you however you present. I offer you the truth and we take steps to help you realise, from where ever you are to the ultimate union. I honour your path and I honour where you are.
Remember, enlightenment etc is not about being higher or better than anyone else. Its just that you are more aware of consciousness, you remember more. Its not a race, its a journey of discovery and uncovering and emptying of the space of consciousness that is you.
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